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GROWING Through What You Go Through
I cleared a clog in the sink yesterday. It's not a skill I'm proud to have added to my list. This is something my person would have handled and it would have been done with. Instead, I ran to Home Depot, picked up a few tools and braced myself with a plumber on speed dial. "Please don't let me screw this up". Then dirty water splashed me from the backup drain. I wanted to cry. "WHY is this my life?". A few minutes later, the water was running through and my task was com
Karen McKevitt
4 days ago3 min read


EMPOWERING: Caregiving Starts with Boundaries
I had a really great conversation with my mentor/friend/confidiant/fellow caregiver today. After losing two of her loved ones after caregiving journies, she was sharing updates from her family and the boundaries that she had to set up for her own mental health. Situations in her family were activating repressed memories of her caregiving days. Feelings she didn't want to relive, yet are so engrained because of the experiences she faced. That got me thinking about the impor
Karen McKevitt
5 days ago3 min read


REFLECTING on Your Caregiver Journey: Looking Back, Moving Forward
Ok. I'll say it. Time is a thief. Each second ticks by. You've already spent at least 5 seconds reading the last few words. Words that took me a good minute to put down on this digital page. In the throws of caregiving, each second ticks by while you're stressed, sad, mad, fearful... joyful, happy, celebrating.... exhausted. I know I shared in a previous post that caregiving is much like raising kids. The days are long but the years are short. But that also leaves time
Karen McKevitt
Jun 42 min read


ADVOCACY: Putting the Pieces Together
If I'm honest, and you know I am, I've been rewriting this post for a few days. What started about one facit of ADVOCACY turned into another and another. It just didn't have the right feel. Then, in the car yesterday, it all became clear! ADVOCACY is about putting the puzzle of your person together. You sit in a doctor's office with them. You listen to the expert and figure out how to relate it to your situation. The doctor, or other professionals, give you the pieces a
Karen McKevitt
Jun 33 min read


CONNECTION and the Check-In I didn't know I needed
While in the job market, I spend a lot of time on LinkedIn. It's my least favorite social media platform because I look for the human connections - I want to see how you're doing, what your family is up to. I don't just want your work persona. Coupled with the volume of people "open to work", it's a mixing pot of skills versus skills. It has lots of value, but it can be depressing when you're on "this side" of the job hunt. Yeah, I know... how is this related to caregivin
Karen McKevitt
May 293 min read


Changed Relationships in Caregiving
When I work with anyone in a coaching setting, I'm often saying that we're changing constantly. The person you will be in 24 hours will be different from the person in front of me now because we will have had 24 hours more of life. In some ways, that 24 hours will shape decisions we make, the way we do things or the way we view the world. It may not be dramatic shifts, but they do matter. When I think back to me on December 22, before all of this took place, I was very dif
Karen McKevitt
May 283 min read


The Ups and Downs of Caregiving
I was having a mentally challenging day the other day. There was no reason for it, but I was just spent. It may have been the reason I was so contemplative. "The days are long, but the years are short." If you're a parent to some littles, I know you've heard that at least once. It hit me that the caregiving seasons are the same way. As much as you are prepared to get through the day, there is just something - usually something mundane - that makes the day just not the way
Karen McKevitt
May 273 min read


When Celebrations Look Different
Last week was my birthday and our wedding anniversary. It's normally a fun time with dinners out, small presents and lots of laughs. Not that it wasn't that this time, but it was just different. Combine high school activities and the days were slightly overshadowed by the day-to-day. One thing I had asked for was a birthday cake. My daughter, residing in Florida for now, was in on it and pushed "the boys" to do something. I knew they wouldn't bake a cake and they both t
Karen McKevitt
May 243 min read


Why "The Caregiver Circle"?
While working on my Grief Educator certification class, "Who do you want to serve?" was a powerful question. My mind initially went to the teens I've been known to work with. But as I looked inward, my caregiving side was screaming at me... "Hello!!! Are you not listening?!" The question became how to serve. What am I good at? Talking... and a podcast was born. What do I name it? How do I create it..... so on and so on. The Caregiver Circle came to be. But as I walk-th
Karen McKevitt
May 222 min read


Caregiving Seasons
While writing my last post, it occurred to me to compare the caregiving journey to seasons. The time in each season isn't predictive like our meteorological seasons (thank you to my favorite TV weatherman for this fancy word!). We may not follow the seasons exactly the way we'd experience Winter, Spring, Summer and Fall in real life. However, there is something so parallel between them that it's impossible to deny. Winter: Cold, snowy, bundled up. Caregiving in the beginni
Karen McKevitt
May 212 min read


Permission to Pause and Restore
Anyone think this caregiver journey is easy? Let me see a show of hands. No one? Anyone in the back?? Oh, good... It's not just me thinking this is hard. Several weeks ago, I had coffee with a friend. My person was still in a rehab facility, it was cold and me, feeling utterly broken, jumped at the chance to "forget" everything that was going on for an hour or so. This friend and I have known each other for a long time, having volunteered together for many, many years.
Karen McKevitt
May 203 min read


A Little Encouragement for Caregivers Today
"Ready? Ok!" Anyone else thinking about cheerleaders right now? Good. That's the direction I'm going in! ENCOURAGEMENT is part of the caregiver journey. How could it not be? For your person receiving your care, it's to motivate them; it's to support them; it's to not let them give up on themselves. ENCOURAGMENT for the caretaker is a little different. I hope you can get that from your person, but I recognize it may not be possible in the case of dementia or something s
Karen McKevitt
May 193 min read


Validation Can Change Everything
This is the post on emotions. Yeah... it's an important part of this caregiving saga. Emotions run high between the caregiver and care recipient. How can they not. Sometimes daily, other times weeks can go by. But the emotions and the feelings behind them need to be VALIDATED. It's easy to focus on the physical. Whether it's mobility, cognative issues, health decline, they all come with thoughts and feelings. It's natural to miss the "old life" or "the way things were"
Karen McKevitt
May 184 min read


Why Information Matters for Caregivers
INFORMATION is a critical piece of a caregiver's journey. I feel like it's a bit of a hunt and peck type deal in the beginning, especially when you have no idea what's coming your way. Absorbing everything being thrown at you can be overwhelming, especially if it's in an area you're unfamiliar. Luckily, or not, I do have experiences that make me comfortable in medical settings, so I've learned what to ask. If your person is able to participate in that, it's even better. Y
Karen McKevitt
May 173 min read


Growing through the Caregiving Lens
When I sat down to write this, my first thoughts were "how the heck to I GROW when I'm the caretaker?" It's a daunting job day in, day out. And it's done completely out of love - most days, of course! But in the quiet moments, like all caregiving, it's a two pronged approach. First, for my person. I am the cheerleader. I see the progress daily at first, then week to week as the journey continues on. What we couldn't do last week becomes a success this week. GROWTH. For
Karen McKevitt
May 153 min read


Empowered and prepared
I created a Facebook post, but haven't used it yet. It's for EMPOWERMENT. The message reads "Gain practical tools, resources and confidence to handle each day with strength." It made me pause as I went to write this. I was immediately transported to New Years Eve. My person was transferred to a rehab facility for what we thought would only be 4-5 days for surgery. Insurance and holidays messed that up and it turned into a 12 day visit. There was fear. We knew what to ex
Karen McKevitt
May 123 min read


Reflection Is Part of Healing Too
When you're in the depths of caregiving, it's hard to process anything but what's in front of you. I'm often looking at the to-do list, the basics versus the need-to-do versus the "it-would-be-nice-if-i-could". I forget that there are feelings that come with it too. Every journey starts differently. Some start gradually, while others are sudden and unexpected. When you have the gradual ones, I'm sure there is some elements that you can prepare for, but until you're in it,
Karen McKevitt
May 113 min read


Advocacy is an Act of Love
Prior to the caregiving journey, I thought I knew what ADVOCACY was. I thought it was those hospital visits with my kids, post surgical follow ups for my people. I even took a course in becoming a Special Education Advocate because it called to me. But as my new-found journey with caregiving has surfaced, I realized it was so much more than that. In the early days of this journey, it was being a voice for my person. It was documenting all questions we had and all answers
Karen McKevitt
May 103 min read


Connection is Key
In the caregiving and grief worlds, CONNECTION is such a critical piece of your toolkit. The experiences of caregiving and grief often lead to isolation. With caregiving, you're so completely focused on getting through the day-to-day that a week has gone by when you often realize it's been a few days or a week since you reached out to someone important. In grief, the self isolation comes in different forms. Usually it's when others think "shouldn't you be over this by now?
Karen McKevitt
May 92 min read


Well, Hello There!
Blogging has been a long time coming. I've always found that writing just gives me a great outlet. While I temporarily put my coaching hat on the shelf, I'm BACK! And I've been busy behind the scenes here. Life certainly never stands still, it also isn't for the faint at heart. The first thing I'm THRILLED to announce is that I'm now a Certified Grief Educator with David Kessler. So what does that mean? A Certified Grief Educator is committed to providing the highest leve
Karen McKevitt
May 53 min read
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